What you want or what you need???

Whether you are a long time yogi or new to the practice, it is sometimes difficult to step past our ideas of what we want a yoga class to be. Our ideas are shaped in part by our previous experiences and inquires. Sometimes we rely on how something makes us feel. On those brief moments, we can sidestep all of that and just enjoy all that is presented to us. This is the journey of the yogi. What is more important; what we want or what we need?

Working in yoga studios for the past eight years, I have had the extraordinary opportunity to speak with many yogis. Whether they were coming out of a class with bliss in their eyes and a smile on their face or leaving half way through a class raging on about how horrible it was, it came down to a couple of important realizations. Of course, these are generalizations and everyone's experiences are different, unique to the person and the situation, and a result of many layers of previous experiences.

Many times we have an idea of what makes a good class or teacher and what doesn't. Is it really that important to have music in class? To end with a Savasana? Is it not a Vinyasa class if the student is not asked to do one Downward Facing Dog the entire class? Not really. Recently I had the opportunity to get feedback from a student that was unhappy with a class of a fellow teacher. He felt that the teacher was not prepared to teach this class as they did not put together a play list and didn't end the class with a Savasana. In the student's past experience, this was always a part of class. So in this particular instance he was taken to a new place, a class that challenged his preexisting ideas of what made a good class. In conversation, he was then exposed to a new idea that classes are designed according to many factors, such as, what time of day it was being taught at, who was in class, the level of those that were in class, and what focus is being decided upon. Many times, what we think we want is not what we need. Was the music a good distraction so he was not forced to be within himself? Maybe he could be whisked away and not have to focus on his breath or maybe music was a the perfect way to make time go by more quickly. Usually those things that we fight so strongly against, are exactly what we need to be doing.

As a teacher, it is a constant balance of whether we teach what students need or what they want. If we solely teach what they need, our class sizes begin to diminish. Who wants to go to a class that is always forcing us to face the uncomfortable? Or should we give in to the public desire to just feel good. I suppose it is somewhat dependent on the setting. I do feel strongly that as a yoga teacher, we have chosen to teach, to educate, to help our students progress on their journey. If I just wanted to instruct, I would be more prone to give a student the feel good fix they are looking for. But where on the journey is that leading... usually in a big circle. Uncomfortable as it may feel, be brave and venture out on the limb; that is where all the good fruit is. Face yourself and maybe you will find a new smile waiting there for you.

Be brave but also be intelligent on the journey. If you have a question, ask it. If you don't understand what you are being asked to do, venture an expedition of inquiry. As there are so many different styles, hundreds of training programs, and thousands of teachers; please don't walk blindly. Do your research. Find out where the teacher has studied, who their teacher is and what to expect from their classes. Even if a teacher does not have many years of teaching yoga under their belt, don't discredit their ability to teach. They may be just as qualified and knowledgeable as a long time veteran teacher. Quantity does not always equal quality. If you don't enjoy a class with a certain teacher, start a personal inquiry of what made you not enjoy the class. I would highly recommend attempting at least three times with the same teacher before continuing on your journey.

In the Western culture, home of the quick fix and impatience, we tend to view a yoga practice as an alternative to a trip to the gym... another workout. We are unsatisfied with a yoga practice that doesn't make us sweat or forces us to think. Is the necessary to work so hard? An asana practice, or a practice that involves moving our bodies into different shapes, is not meant to contort, manipulate or even work out our bodies. An asana practice is meant instead to prepare us for meditation, finding an opportunity to reflect, to be still, to find introspection. We are looking to achieve efficiency and intelligence of our physical body to also gain the same in our breath and mind. Less is more!

So coming back to the season change. Winter typically is a time that we are prone to less energy, focus, drive, more suseptable to despression, frustration and stress, can we expect to practice the same way as we did in the summer? Not really. Finding the Yin side of your practice, or as to say the calm, peaceful, relaxed, slow, or dark side our your practice, can have as much of a profound impact in your state.  As with a change of practice for the seasons we must also take into consideration the time of day.  Would a teacher be wise to ask you to get out of bed, go to the yoga studio and and then lay in a 15 minute savasana before you go to work?  Personally, I would need another couple cups of coffee before being able to fully function for work.  Or in an evening practice that is so strong with firey standing balances or arm balances?  Unless you work at night, it would probably not be advisable.  We must alter our practice according to the time of day, part of the month, and season of the year.

All of these factors can be overwhelming to think about.  That is one reason to seek out a teacher.  One that will guide you safely and intelligently through the many changes and facets of lives.  Teachers have chosen to study the why and how to be able to alleviate the confusion.  But as a student, please make sure you ask why if you don't understand something.

In the Krishnamacharya lineage it is said that a teacher should "give 90% of what a student wants and 10% of what they need".  Not a bad percentage for trying something new.

As the Rain Falls...

Here in the Pacific Northwest, the season has officially turned. The brilliant sunshine that we took for granted at the end of the summer has turned its attention elsewhere. No longer are we able to forget what it means to turn inward. As the rain falls, we are naturally and instinctively settling down. Night time begins to fall even before the majority of us get out of work. I find myself, like so many others, becoming more homeward bound. A true effort is made to leave the comfort of my adorable and cuddling cats, the soft warm glow of the fire place, and the dryness that is home.

Instead of staying away, finding lazy days on the couch and eating comfort foods, we can instead turn to a practice that can energize us, inspire us, and even heal us. I have noticed of late that many of my students have been complaining of more stress in their lives, more tension in their bodies, and less energy to deal with any of it. As we fall into the dark, cold, and wet months of winter, we can turn to inward introspection, visualizing something that brings us joy, warmth, and support. Allow this to accompany you in your day to day steps and in your practice. Allow this to integrate itself into your consciousness so you no longer need to try to think about it. A thoughtful yoga practice can not only open up our bodies, heal injuries or abuses but also change our perspectives. Changing how we think about our yoga can alter how you do your yoga.

One way to help deal with stressful times is to turn to our breath. Seems so simplistic, doesn't it? In times of stress, frustration, anxiety or any other feeling of discord, our breath becomes shallow and even stressed itself. Our breath is the last thing we tend to focus on or even think about. We sometimes even forget to breath! In these stressful times, allow yourself the special gift of a moment. A moment to do nothing else but breath. Close your eyes. Turn your attention inward. Send the breath into your belly, allowing it to soften and relax. Taking full and extraordinary breaths softly through the nose and sending it down. Allowing this downward attention to help you find grounding and support. Come out of your head. Take at least 10 full breaths before moving on with your day. Notice if this changes how you perceive the events happening. It is so simple and so profound. Just breath. This attention will help relief stress, tension, and even change the way your relate to people in these pressing times.

Some of us deal with lack of energy, motivation, and desire to interact at all. Focusing on the breath will also help along with keeping active. Stick with your practice. Allow it to change. Allow there to be an ebb and flow. If you have a difficult time motivating yourself to do your self practice, go to a class. Group energy helps inspire us to move and breath! If getting to a class seems daunting, take another moment. Sit and breath. Keep sending the breath down to find your support system and then turn your attention to your inhalation. Allow each inhale to fill you with inspired, positive energy. Once you get the itch to move, go... go straight to class. Get on your mat. Surround yourself with others that most likely had to make the same bold effort to get there. Come together and live your practice.

You are worth each breath you take. Give yourself the chance to find its inspiration and motivation. Allow it to let you dance and sing and live! Breath!